Living well in the future is about reaching your potential without interference from the past

My Areas of Experience

Depression and Suicide

Much can be said about depression and/or suicidal thoughts, they have many causes and roots and there are a number of ways to combat them. They are often coupled with a sense of hopelessness and helplessness. There are ways out of depression and suicidal ideation that we could discuss together and find a way out and forward that suits you.

If you feel hopeless and helpless and can’t see any way forward you can call me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Low Self-esteem

Often coupled with depression low self-esteem also has many causes and roots. Examining our belief systems can often lead to insights into why we ended up with such low self-esteem, and thereby reveal the way towards a greater sense of self-worth and confidence.

If you believe you are not worth much, or not good enough, you can call me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Relationship difficulties

This is one of the most common reasons for people wanting to talk to someone. Relationships come under pressure for myriad reasons, money, distance, age, long work hours, children, growing apart, and affairs. Talking things through with someone who has no emotional investment in you staying together or separating can be a useful way of getting clarity about what you want.

If you want and need your relationship/s to be different and better you can call me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Workplace Bullying

Some clients are subjected to unreasonable pressure, discrimination and humiliation in many forms. Often people don’t realise that what they are going through is bullying. Talking things through could help to understand what is happening and draw up a strategy for what to do about it.

Stress

Some stress is healthy, pressure can be motivational and if responded to appropriately can help people to achieve more than they thought they could. However, too much stress causes emotional and psychological distress, which is unhealthy. Recognising the differences, and working out the optimal level of stress for you can lead to a more productive and fulfilling work/life balance.

If you feel out of control and unable to say ‘no’, you can take the first steps to regaining, or even gaining control for the first time by calling me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Domestic Violence

I have worked for 20 years with women affected by domestic violence both as a counsellor and supervisor of other counsellors who work on a voluntary basis with women who have been, or who are currently experiencing domestic violence. Domestic violence often goes unrecognised, or minimised, because to do so would involve enormous upheaval, emotionally and physically. Talking things through with someone who has no emotional investment in you staying together or separating can be a useful way of getting clarity about what you want.

Please also see the following information (PDF download) about money and debt for women experiencing domestic violence.

Download Clare's Law The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (PDF)

https://www.gov.uk/domestic-violence-and-abuse#domestic-violence-and-abuse-new-definition

If you’re feeling trapped or scared by verbal, physical, emotional, psychological or sexual violence you can take the first steps to ending it by calling me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Rape and Childhood Sexual Abuse

People are often surprised by how many women (young and older) are affected by childhood sexual abuse ; approximately 1 in 6, probably more as much of it goes unreported for fear of not being believed, or because they have been threatened with reprisals if disclosed. Thankfully we are beginning to understand how many men and young boys are also affected by it. Recognising what constitutes abuse, and acknowledging that it is a big deal and gaining insight and understanding can set us off on the road to recovery. No pressure will be placed on you to make disclosures of sexual abuse any further than you wish.

If you feel like past, or recent sexual abuse is holding you back, causing nightmares, flashbacks, grief or trauma and generally making your life miserable then talking it through can be helpful towards seeing your way out. You can call me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.

Bereavement and Loss

All trainee counsellors do a voluntary placement. Mine was with a bereavement service in North West London for two years. Since then I have counselled many people who have suffered bereavement or loss of a loved one through death, divorce, separation due to war, working abroad, or through being an asylum seeker or immigrant to this country. Bereavement is a natural process that we all go through, in a variety of ways that are normal for each of us. Talking through the process, and gaining insight and understanding can be helpful in coming to terms with a loss.

If you feel stuck in grief for a recent or past bereavement or loss and want a new way forward please feel free to call me on 07931 333679 for an initial chat (or to make an appointment) about what’s troubling you, or email me at annetteansell.1@gmail.com.